"I Deserve To Be Loved" - How Homosexuality is influencing Christianity

You may have already read the viral blog post entitled, "I'm Christian unless You're Gay" by Dan Pierce on his blog "Single Dad Laughing." Well, a follow up has just been posted including a powerful letter from a gay teenage boy that is lighting people up all over again. Click here to read this post.

Although this topic doesn't immediately address worship issues, I wanted to respond in a way that does...because it seems that in the case of Homosexual v. Christian, we are forgetting one very important thing - we don't make the rules. God is God. We can interpret particular scriptures whatever way we choose to interpret them...but when we forget that we worship a God who gave His life for us so that we might know love...that's when it becomes an issue of whom or what we worship.

In the case of Homosexual v. Christian, I believe that Christians have to adjust the way we think of homosexuality. Not to claim purity or righteousness for the lifestyle necessarily, but to recognize...well...that they are friggin' people!

However, generally speaking everyone needs to change perspective about Christianity, too. For an example...Christians don't deserve love. It is true. None of us. We fail miserably all the time at simply being decent human beings. In fact, Christians are the same as homosexuals when it comes to "deserving" love.

When homosexuals use the argument, "I deserve to be loved as much as anyone else" they are correct...but in a totally different way than most people realize. It is elitism for anyone to think that they deserve love. Love is a gift. It comes with a great price. In order to receive love...it must be given. In order to truly give love...you must have received it. There is no greater love than to lay down your life for someone. And until this concept of love seeps deep into someone's heart...until someone realizes this has been done for them by God...then that someone will always reserve "love" for those who in their minds "deserve it".

Homosexuality is not to be used as a measurement for love...nothing is. We don't deserve it! The good news is...LOVE has been given to all of us if only we would receive it. Then our job is to spread it unsparingly to EVERYONE we encounter...not because we deserve it....but because it makes God happy (and it makes all of us happier people too). This is a great article...a great letter...but Christianity is not a religion of people who are perfect love. It is a family of people who recognize and spread God's love. AND everyone can join in the cause!

Who do we worship? Do we worship the feeling we get in our stomach when someone addresses and issue we don't agree with? Do we worship the idea we have of God? Or are we truly looking at the entirety of scripture in understanding who we worship?

Christians "deserve to be loved as much as anyone else"...but in a totally different way than most people realize.


  1. splitting hairs

  2. I totally get your point we don't earn or deserve God's love. It is freely given, that is the amazing thing about God's love. As the original post said, We all have something about us that is imperfect. However, when it comes to homosexuality, I agree with the blog. It doesn't matter. It is not my job to be judge and jury of homosexuals, what they deserve don't deserve. In fact, that's not my job for anyone, and unfortunately, I think the loudest "Christians" spew that and give us all a bad rap. Just because I love someone, show them kindness, friendship does not have anything to do with what they choose to be. Jesus died for ALL of us. WWJD? He would love everyone, and that's what I think we should do.

    1. Right on, sister. It seems that folks are scared that loving someone exactly the way they are somehow forces them to sacrifice their own theology. Unless they have a theology of exclusion and hatred...then it should be no problem showing everyone respect and appreciation. Just sayin'.

  3. I love the point of this article: we worship God, not our own theologies. Well put, too. Perhaps we don't - any of us - deserve love, but we all need it. But if God offers it to all of us, then God must thing we deserve it.

    I'm sure you know how I feel about gay people: I believe that God made them that way.

    But there are a couple of things about this article that I find interesting. The first is the idea of "Christian vs. Homosexuality." It seems to me that this is a very misguided concept, that I find a little offensive. There are lots of Christians all over this country who welcome LGBT people into their worshiping communities. It might be more aptly put to say, "Conservative Christian vs. Homosexuality" or "Fundamentalist Christian vs. Homosexuality," or even "Bigoted, Homophobic Christian vs. Homosexuality," though I'm sure some of your other readers might be offended by these terms, too.

    Second is the concept that LGBT people are saying to the church "I deserved to be loved," based on the referenced article. The mother's letter which referenced her son certainly showed the son's plea for love, but it was a teen talking about his parents and basic human acceptance; it had nothing to do with the church. Yes, your extending of the concept to churches might be valid, but it seems you implied that gay people are begging for churches to love them like the son begged his parents; but gays aren't any more desperate than any of the rest of us. They also become aware of the churches that love everyone, not just people who fit some churches' artificial molds.

    I'm pleased to know of at least 5 churches in Richmond that welcome anyone, including those in the LGBT community. I expect that MOST churches in Richmond have gay members. Some ignore them, or don't let them have leadership positions. Some are struggling over the issue.

    Perhaps articles like yours will help us to at least discuss the issues, because they DO effect our worship.

    1. I agree! I wrote this in response to many of the posts on the referenced blog made by people who immediately blasted Christianity as the enemy...mainly because the mom is a Christian.

      I would argue that there are a lot of gay people who are begging (asking, pleading, etc.) to be accepted by churches...not because they are desperate or need the approval of churches...but because they are Christians...and they'd like to go to church and participate in the various ministries without feeling excluded. However, it seems more times than not, this turns to anger and attacks.

      My hope is that we can begin to avoid singling out a particular characteristic and begin recognizing all of our need for a Savior. Perhaps then we'll all be united by LOVE.